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I'm her girlfriend. Is it really that difficult of a concept to understand?
A couple of weeks ago I came out to my parents, letting them know that I liked girls more than I liked guys. They were fine with it but my mom had a hard time understanding. It made me ecstatic, I was terrified that I would be ignored or punished for being who I am but my parents were actually fine with it. For a while I've liked this girl, she's smart, funny, hot as hell, honestly she's one of the most fantastic people I have ever met. Her name (for those of you that don't know) is Jordynne. And she's been my girlfriend since December 20. When I finally worked up the courage to tell my mom about her my mom's first question was.
"Well are you the boy?"
No. No I'm not. I'm a girl. And so is Jordynne. She is not my boyfriend nor am I her's. I am her girlfriend. And she is mine. And it bothers me that as soon as I bring up that I'm dating a girl some people immediately bring up "well which one is the guy?" NEITHER! We're both girls! One of my most hated misconceptions is that in every relationship with two females one acts like a boy. And although in some couples this is true, it is not the norm for every relationship. Just because I'm dating a girl does not mean I want to be a boy. I have no desire to change any part of who I am or who Jordynne is. Yes I am female. Yes I am dating a girl. And you know what? I still love shopping for dresses as much as I love wearing jeans. I still love playing video games as much as I love putting together a good outfit.  And I love talking to my girlfriend. Not my boyfriend. Every girl has some boy attributes, and every boy has some girl attributes. It goes both ways. But just because I'm in a relationship with another girl doesn't mean we need a guy. Honestly? I'm happier than I have ever been dating Jordynne. She's the best thing to happen to me in a long time. I don't need a boy. And I don't want her to be a boy. I don't want anything to change at all. I get it. I really do. Sometimes people just don't understand, and sometimes it just needs to be explained, but this is all I'm trying to say. I'm a girl. I'm dating a girl. And I have no wish to change any part of who I am, or who she is.
So to answer your question mom:
No. I'm not the boy, and neither is Jordynne. We're both girls. We're both in a relationship. And I don't want to change a single thing.
This is mainly just a rant on my feelings, I just had to get them out in the open.

My girlfriend broke up with me. But my stance on this issue remains the same.

:iconleblancearry: did a wonderful drawing of what I'm saying in this post [link]
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The-Bloody-Bishop Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2012  Student Writer
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CannibalCupcake Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
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The-Bloody-Bishop Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2012  Student Writer
Lovely joke! Hee hee!
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FunSizedReesesCup Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Goodness, I get asked this question so many times "so, who is the boy?" NEITHER.

I absolutely love my girlfriend. She is mine.
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CannibalCupcake Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Thank you for reading, I'm happy you found a girl that makes you happy^^
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oh-my-kokoro Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2012  Student Digital Artist
Amen to this. When I had a girlfriend at least 10 different people asked me wich one of us was ''the guy'' in our relationship :/ such a weird and stupid thing to ask.
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CannibalCupcake Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
It is such an odd question, I understand wondering which person is dominant in a relationship but that doesn't make them "the guy".
Thank you for reading and commenting :3
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vines-of-blood Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2012
Im sorry to hear that yall broke up. But I hope that one day you will be the person who means the most to you. And that life doesnt become mundane but a great experience of joy and happiness because you can share it with them. :)
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WhitexWinterxWolf Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hehe. Naw. I know what you mean though. With me and my partner we act bit of both XD
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CannibalCupcake Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Balance is always best, I'm happy you two know what works for you^^
Thank you for reading and commenting :3
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