I'm her girlfriend. Is it really that difficult of a concept to understand?
A couple of weeks ago I came out to my parents, letting them know that I liked girls more than I liked guys. They were fine with it but my mom had a hard time understanding. It made me ecstatic, I was terrified that I would be ignored or punished for being who I am but my parents were actually fine with it. For a while I've liked this girl, she's smart, funny, hot as hell, honestly she's one of the most fantastic people I have ever met. Her name (for those of you that don't know) is Jordynne. And she's been my girlfriend since December 20. When I finally worked up the courage to tell my mom about her my mom's first question was.
"Well are you the boy?"
No. No I'm not. I'm a girl. And so is Jordynne. She is not my boyfriend nor am I her's. I am her girlfriend. And she is mine. And it bothers me that as soon as I bring up that I'm dating a girl some people immediately bring up "well which one is the guy?" NEITHER! We're both girls! One of my most hated misconceptions is that in every relationship with two females one acts like a boy. And although in some couples this is true, it is not the norm for every relationship. Just because I'm dating a girl does not mean I want to be a boy. I have no desire to change any part of who I am or who Jordynne is. Yes I am female. Yes I am dating a girl. And you know what? I still love shopping for dresses as much as I love wearing jeans. I still love playing video games as much as I love putting together a good outfit. And I love talking to my girlfriend. Not my boyfriend. Every girl has some boy attributes, and every boy has some girl attributes. It goes both ways. But just because I'm in a relationship with another girl doesn't mean we need a guy. Honestly? I'm happier than I have ever been dating Jordynne. She's the best thing to happen to me in a long time. I don't need a boy. And I don't want her to be a boy. I don't want anything to change at all. I get it. I really do. Sometimes people just don't understand, and sometimes it just needs to be explained, but this is all I'm trying to say. I'm a girl. I'm dating a girl. And I have no wish to change any part of who I am, or who she is.
So to answer your question mom:
No. I'm not the boy, and neither is Jordynne. We're both girls. We're both in a relationship. And I don't want to change a single thing.